February 10, 2022
Why We Swear
Swearing comes to some of us as a reaction to something surprising and to others like a first language. Normal for some, it might also point to underlying personal troubles that may need addressing in order to lead a fulfilling and happy life. Recognizing why you swear can help you determine if it’s a harmless occurrence or if you’re struggling mentally and emotionally to cope with negative situations happening in your life. Left unchecked, these issues can lead to a highly negative outlook on life and all the damaging effects that come with it. It’s important that you know when you need to take a break and address these feelings directly, rather than attempting to cope alone.Reasons We Swear:
- Habit/Personality—Some people swear. It doesn’t mean they’re angry. It’s just a part of who they are and maybe even the culture they were brought up in. Oftentimes, swear words can be used in different tones and contexts, such as for humor purposes.
- Frustration—It can be freeing to say a few bad words about a tough situation—like dropping a rock on your foot. Someone can use swearing as a mode of coping. In many situations, refraining from swearing is necessary, such as in front of children because they might think it was directed at them.
- Fitting In—We might do it to fit into a group or culture with people who commonly swear or have their own variations of swear words. Nobody likes to be left out!
- Sympathy/Empathy—Sometimes we don’t even realize when we sympathy- or empathy-swear. Maybe you don’t swear often, but hearing your friend upset and using the same words can have you repeating those as you share in her experience. It’s just one way we let them know we’re there for them and we understand.
- Self-Defense—Swearing can be used to scare a potential threat away like the hissing of a cat, or even to put off dealing with troubling emotions we’re not ready to face. It can also contribute to a buildup of negativity down the road.
—Grace Kraniak, Self-Care Editor