• 60 percent of college students in Britain consult pornography, as if it was an instruction manual, even as nearly three-quarters say that they know it is as realistic as pro wrestling.
  • The largest survey on American sexual behavior conducted in decades, published in 2010 in The Journal of Sexual Medicine, researchers at Indiana University found only about a third of girls between 14 and 17 said they masturbate regularly and fewer than half have even tried once.
  • A 2014 study of 16- to 18-year-old heterosexuals published in a British medical journal found that it was mainly boys who pushed for “fifth base,” approaching it less as a form of intimacy with a partner. They did this because it was competition with other boys.
  • There was a 2010 study published in The International Journal of Sexual Health comparing the early experiences of 300 randomly chosen American and Dutch women at two similar colleges — mostly white, middle class, with similar religious backgrounds.
  • The study showed that Americans became sexually active at a younger age than the Dutch, and had more encounters with more partners and were less likely to use birth control. They were also more likely to say that they’d first had intercourse because of pressure from friends or partners.
  • Americans were “driven by hormones,” in which the guys determined relationships, both sexes prioritized male pleasure, and reciprocity was rare.
  • As for the Dutch, their early sexual activity took place in caring, respectful relationships in which they communicated openly with their partners. They talked about what felt good and what didn’t, about how far they wanted to go, and about what kind of protection they would need along the way. They reported more comfort with their bodies and their desires than the Americans and were more in touch with their own pleasure.
  • The Dutch said that teachers and doctors talked more openly to them about sex, pleasure and the importance of a mutual trust, even love.
  • In the article it talks about how they didn’t survey parents on how willing they were to talk about sex to kids, but in interviews it showed that the American moms had focused on the potential risks and dangers, while their dads, if they said anything at all, stuck to lame jokes.
  • As for the Dutch Parents, they talked to their kids from an early age about the joy and responsibility of having sex.
  • Young Dutch men combine sex and love and for Americans only care about sex and the pleasure.