Open Communication in Relationships

Discussing what you need emotionally and sexually can be an awkward topic for a lot of people. No one wants to tell their partner that they are unhappy, but it is important to discuss for the improvement of a relationship. All couples are bound to argue at some point, but by having open communication, an ever-changing relationship will be able to work past the bumps in the road. Neither side of a relationship should have the burden of carrying around pain or anger, but by discussing problems in a fairly calm manner will help the relationship grow. Take a breath and let your concerns out.

When the waitress at Olive Garden asks if you want cheese, you tell her yes and she continues to grate the cheese until you say that there is enough on your dish. Discussing sex in a relationship shouldn’t be any harder than that. It’s extremely important to discuss birth control within a relationship, and though it may be awkward, it’s probably more awkward for a young couple to surprise their families with a baby. Not only is birth control a necessary topic of conversation, but pleasure is important as well. If you don’t like cheese, tell your waitress you don’t want any. If you don’t like a certain sex position, tell your partner. Along with pleasure comes boundaries. Discuss with your partner places you may not want to be touched so that there isn’t an awkward moment when things get caught up in the moment. No matter how awkward a conversation might be, it’s extremely important to discuss your needs and desires to maintain a healthy and sustainable relationship.

Do’s and Don’ts of a Communicational Relationship

Do’s

  • Focus on your ideal communication
  • Do learn each other’s timing preferences for communication
  • Do seek for support
  • Do make a list of indications and feelings
  • Do use a gentle tone of voice
  • Do use “I” rather than “You”
  • Listen without interruption

Don’ts

  • Don’t focus on what’s missing in your conversations
  • Don’t expect your partner to talk when you are
  • Don’t be hard on yourself or your partner
  • Don’t use “Always” or “Never” in communication
  • Don’t blame or criticize
  • Don’t use a harsh or unloving tone
  •  Don’t hide your feelings

For more information go to these websites:

http://www.yourtango.com/experts/deb-dutilh/how-improve-communication-relationships?page=1

http://www.from2to3.com.au/blog/10-dos-and-donts-for-communicating-with-your-partner

https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/healthyliving/relationships-and-communication

http://www.canville.net/malone/lovenotenough.html

http://www.ashasexualhealth.org/sexual-health/talking-about-sex/