When I was a kid, there was a PSA on TV from time to time that went something like this: “When you feel yourself getting tense. Stop. Two. Three…. Breath. Two. Three…. Think your way to sense.”
Despite the cheesy phrasing, timeouts are a good thing for adults, teens, and kids alike. They can help us calm down when we’re frustrated. So, the next time you’re feeling angry, take a break, count to five, or walk away from the person you are frustrated with until your anger dissipates.
By Dr. Ryan C. Martin
Ryan is the chair of the Psychology Department at the University of Wisconsin-Green Bay and a nationally known anger researcher. His work focuses on healthy and unhealthy expressions of anger, including how we express anger online.